I disagree. For me, this is supposed to be a safe space for men to meet up and make meaningful relationships. If this app is the thing that someone needs to open up about themselves, then great. We built up 32, Facebook fans before launch. Then, there were a few articles, like one in Queerty, which made the app into a place for straight men looking for other straight men to get oral sex in secret.
There you go then.
Most of the people I chatted to on there said that they identified as gay. People have called it an app for straight men because of the design, the logo, the name, the fact that interactions include 'fist-bumps'. But maybe that kind of behaviour doesn't have to be restricted to the 'straight' male community.
After all, isn't that, in itself, just conforming to another socially-constructed idea of gender and sexuality? This app has caused loads of media speculation because, in some ways, it all seems so confusing. People have taken it as an app for confused people. Maybe we're just thinking about it too much though. Maybe it's all pretty straightforward. Like BRO's mission statement puts it, a place, "for men that are interested in meeting other men… as simple as that".
Like I'm doing it all in secret. That's not because I'm a homophobe who doesn't want to be tarnished with homosexuality. It's because I'm in a happy relationship and I wouldn't want the missus or her mates catching me on there I told him I was new to it all. The guy offered to blow me, NSA.
Feeling bored, I decided to go through with it. I guess on some level I am bi and not really straight. Yep, I am. I used to attend a military college that was ROTC.
During my time there, I became close friends with a guy who would later become a Marine. To keep it real, we were both attracted to one another. We never came right out and said that but the shit was obvious. The thing is, we both had girlfriends. One weekend, we decided to hangout in his room and play some silly board game.
While talking, we ended up getting intimate. It just did.
We had always been close and hung out together as little kids. At some point, we both took off our shirts and started comparing physiques. A touch here. A grab there. In time, we were both fully erect through our sweatpants. One of the things we would do is have a masturbation competition. Whoever shot the farthest was the winner. Stupid, huh? A friend and I decided to meet at a local bar and play pool.
We had been throwing back a few and doing shots. By the time we left, we were both feeling pretty good if you get my drift.
We ended up going back to his place to crash. Somehow, we both ended up making out together on the couch. It was the weirdest thing. I still remember him excusing himself while we were making out to go to the bathroom. One day after practice, we all hit the showers to clean up and go our separate ways.
Because I was curious, I decided to step into the shower with him after everyone left. But we did end up taking turns on each other in my car. All of this happened years ago. There was just something about him that was attractive. It was always an informal thing — kind of random. On a Saturday afternoon, one of my buddies called me up and asked if I wanted to hang. Having nothing else to do, I figured why not. When I got there, my two friends were firing up. As evening approached, one of them started talking about dick size. At some point, of them whipped out his junk and got hard.
The other dude laughed and did the same. What else could I do but join in? Remember now, we were still flying high. The guy who originally started the whole thing began jerking. In a flash, all three of us were spanking our monkeys. After it all ended, we ordered a pizza. It was just one of those guy things that you have to get out of your system.
The best part was that all of us were around the same size. At this place, they had a backroom area with private rooms. Feeling curious, I decided to check it out. After stepping into a booth to watch a video, I noticed a medium size hole in the wall. Occasionally, I would see a tongue darting in and out. I stuck my junk through and let the guy do his thing. Oh, I know it was a guy because I could see his facial hair when he did the tongue thing.
It kind of rocked! First, it began with some hand action.
Later on, he started going down on me. The shit felt good! I let him do his thing until I released. After that, I would go to see him twice a month. Then out of the blue, he told all of his customers he was moving to another state.
That sort of sucked. It had gotten to the point that the real reason I was going to see him was for the head. Find out whether homosexuality makes him uncomfortable or not. Most guys are physical and sexual beings. They enjoy getting out there, getting their hands dirty, tumbling around and goofing off. You can use this to your advantage.
Fool around and have fun. See how comfortable he is with you being close to him.
If you play sports, you probably know this already: Push each other into lockers, slap one another with towels, and generally get physical and silly around one another.